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Don't Buy Her a Valentine: Be Her Valentine

By Rose Stricker ( Contact )   January 23, 2008

You've known her for years, yet greeting-card holidays like Valentine's Day leave you baffled as to what she wants? Perhaps what your lady really wants is a new man! Don't worry, you can be that man.

Craig Playstead is a husband. In a report for MSN.com, he tried out ten ways to be a better husband.

And here are his marriage-tested, wife-approved ideas:

1) Take an interest in something your wife is passionate about. (You know, like when you were dating and wanted to get closer to her.)

2) Put the kids to bed. (In other words, give her the evening off once in a while.)

3) Learn to appologize. (Relax, it's not the same as saying you're wrong.)

4) Thank her for putting up with you. (My husband does this... often... and necessarily)

5) Clean up after yourself. (She's your wife, not your maid.)

6) Make time for just the two of you. (Remind her she is more than your roommate or “someone's mom”.)

7) Groom yourself. (Pretend you're dating, and you're still trying to impress her.)

8) Take some time off for yourself. (Really, hang with the guys, take a weekend fishing. You get to recharge, too.)

9) Deal with your side of the family. (And she should deal with hers. 'nuff said.)

10) Mind your manners. (Be someone suitable to have dinner with.)

Granted, ten is a LOT. Pick a couple things and work on them in the next few weeks. See how that goes. And if you already do one or more, you're a Valentine as is!

The most difficult thing about this list is how we ladies can get our man to read it. ::wink::

Read the full article here.

(Men, I know you're looking for the “other” list that tells women how to be better wives. Perhaps you can convince Al Fagerli, Stan Milam, or Tim Bremel to post that one. Heh heh.)

reader COMMENTS (2)
maustin
Jan 24, 2008 at 9:37 a.m.
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I agree. As a husband and Dad and the sole breadwinner, I appreciate the SEVERAL jobs my wife has...Mom,Teacher, Maid, etc., etc. These are good tips for us all to remember about our wives. I think it's also important to think about our roles in the family. For years we've been told that it should be 50 / 50 between a man & woman. But, men & women each bring such unique qualities to the marriage and family, that it needs to be 100 / 100! Now, don't get me wrong...I do dishes, cook, go to the grocery store whatever it takes to make things work. Even my wife will tell you that our house works best when we keep our 100% roles in mind. I am the HEAD of the household and she is the HEART of the home.

patriot1
Jan 24, 2008 at 7:57 a.m.
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Not all men are insensative....I let my wife know how I feel about her almost everyday. Being deployed every so often with the military makes me more attentive, I believe. I don't take anything or anyone for granted.

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